Well Derek was in charge of Family Home Evening last night. He talked about reverence in church. He did awesome. Today I have a dental appointment that I have forgotten to schedule for two weeks now. Ouch! The boys got a new scout master, and they have decided to go full dress every week at scouts, so I have to REALLY find out what Derek and Colten need. We are getting the last school physicals out of the way this week. I have got to go to the commissary today. I made a goal of only going to the commissary once a week. If we run out of something, we are fine. It makes me a lot less stressed with less trips to the commissary. Wednesday we will probably go to the movie in the morning. They have free movies at the movie theatre here, just during the summer. Although I will have to remember to feed the kids before we go because last time, although the movie was free we spent almost $40 in treats/drinks/popcorn. YIKES! My lesson this week is on "God is no respecter of persons" (Acts 10-14; Acts 15:1-35) It is about recognizing that the church is guided by continuing revelation today. Saturday we have a primary activity. They asked me to prepare a 15 lesson/activity on how the kids can help having the spirit in their homes. So if you have any ideas shoot them to me...PLEASE! While we were in the ER last night I was reading my Ensign(church magazine), and I got really interested in the Family Search Indexing. It is volunteer work that anyone can do. Not just church members. You can do it from home. You can check out the website at familysearchindexing.org It is service that you can do in 10-15 minutes a day. It sounds really cool to me. I think I will try to do some each week. I also loved the two articles about Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy, and Crossing Thresholds and becoming Equal partners. That one was wow! Even the picture right as you start the article says it all. It shows a frazzled mom, and the dad just coming home from work....has anyone not felt this! Here is just a bit of the article...
His house key is in the lock. He's home from work and about to step inside. In the kitchen, real life is scattered all around. The baby is crying. The three year old just poured milk ----not in a glass but all over the counter. The seven year old needs some daddy attention. And dinner is NOT ready.
With a deadline at work tomorrow (or a school paper due), a head buzzing from rush hour traffic; and a church meeting tonight, he's hoping she will greet him with some relief.
Hearing him come in, she is glad a relief party has arrived! But when she sees his face fall as he looks around, she defends herself: "Look ---I work all day too. I've been with these kids nonstop, and I really need a break. Will you please fix this mac n cheese and help with the kids?"
In the heat of her request, his hope evaporates into exasperation, and he is about to react.
At the crossroads of their busy day, these two have some choices. Will they use this moment to practice being the kind of companion each has covenanted to become? Or will each one default to past conditioning --- familial and cultural? Certain attitudes and ideas have crept into the very air they breathe, challenging them as they try to work with each other rather than against each other.
It was really great! I think we all get caught up in comparing whose job is harder as husband and wife. But really, think about it...are we really on different teams? It isn't a competition. I think that we retreat into our corners too often and try to protect our own feelings, and our own time instead of working as a family to protect each other.In my experience this just adds another brick to that wall you are building between each other. Another thing I always forget is ....none of us are mind readers. If I have had a bad day, why try and make my husband guess by slamming stuff around in the kitchen, or pouting and not talking. It would save so much time and energy to just give him a hug and say wow have I had a bad day....not even needing to tell all the gory details, with me usually when Pres puts his arms around me everything else just melts away. Anyways. Just me and my thoughts today. Yes they are usually jumbled. If you haven't read those articles they are awesome! It also had a lot of info on food storage in the Ensign this month. Every month I order a little food storage to add to my collection. This month I ordered 2 superpails of white rice, 2 superpails of hard red wheat, 2 #10 cans of granola (the kids love it), 2 #10 cans of dried apples (another favorite), 2 cans of instant milk, 2 cans of freeze dried beef stroganoff. Yummy yummy right? If you don't get the Ensign magazine. Sign up it is easy, and it comes every month and only costs $10 a year! http://www.ldscatalog.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?catalogId=10151&storeId=10151&categoryId=13720&langId=-1&cg1=13719&cg2=&cg3=&cg4=&cg5=
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That was a good article. I remember reading the part about how "mean or unthinking spouses" sometimes support a spouse's feelings of inadequacy and wondering...is that me? But then...I decided it wasn't. Hmmmm. Maybe I should re-read. But it was a really good article!
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